10 Things that are Non-Negotiable

Posted June 8, 2012 by Marcy Twete in Life After Five

Do you know your core values? If you’re anything like me, sometimes the talk of “values” can feel a little (as my coach would call it) woo-woo. It’s a little bit touchy feely, and while incredibly important to both your career and personal life, a discussion of values can leave many confused, perplexed, and without an understanding of what this really means.

I recently read another term that more closely matches the idea of “core values” and is distilled more clearly to the masses. Vasavi Kumar, a contributor to the website MindBodyGreen.com, turned the idea of “core values” on its end and refers to them instead as things that are “non-negotiable.” Vasavi’s “10 Things That Are Non-Negotiable” outlines ten suggested non-negotiables/core values, and can give you a powerful jumping off point to create yours. My personal favorite on Vasavi’s list:

5. Keeping your word to yourself and others
The highest level of integrity is achieved when you keep your word to yourself and to others. Your word is all that you have, it is what defines your credibility, or lack thereof.

So, readers, tell me. What are your non-negotiables? Here are a couple of mine:

  • Never demand agreement, but always command respect. If someone perpetually disagrees with you, that’s one thing. But if they perpetually disrespect you, that’s another. One of my non-negotiables is being respected by my colleagues, family, and friends. And if respect isn’t present or isn’t mutual, the relationship isn’t going to continue.
  • Commitment to excellence. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect, but it’s non-negotiable for me that everything I do at least strive for and have a commitment to excellence. If I fail, I will fail while striving for excellence.


About the Author

Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is a career fundraiser turned corporate responsibility executive, a career and networking expert and the author of the book "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works."