3 Questions to Ask Before Delivering Criticism

Posted May 22, 2013 by Marcy Twete in Life After Five

Delivering criticism, whether to your spouse, your staff, your family, or anyone else in your life, is never easy. I personally hate delivering any sort of criticism so much so that I’ll usually do something myself (or rather, re-do something) instead of telling a person it wasn’t right. Bad idea, right?

That’s why I was so excited when one of my favorite MindBodyGreen gurus Alexandra Franzen put it in perfect perspective for me. When you’re going to delivery criticism, you have to first ask these three questions.

  1. How do I want the person I’m criticizing to FEEL?
  2. What do I want the person I’m criticizing to KNOW?
  3. What do I want the person I’m criticizing to DO?

If you answer those questions, you’ll be coming from a place that truly considers the feelings and outcomes expected not just for you, but for the other person as well.

To read the rest of Alexandra’s incredible article on MindBodyGreen, “How to Deliver Criticism Without Breaking Anyone’s Heart,” click here!

About the Author

Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is a career fundraiser turned corporate responsibility executive, a career and networking expert and the author of the book "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works."