3 Tips to Healthy Friendships
Why do so many Career Girls, for all their successes and sense of self-confidence, spend so much energy on relationships that don’t help them grow as people, but rather, drain them of energy and light? Friendships are critical to Career Girls, but they must be healthy. They must be genuine and unselfishness. Sure, the give and take comes in cycles – at times, you give more, at other times, you receive more. But in healthy friendships, no one is counting.
1. Be honest
Healthy friendships require compassionate honesty. That is different from brutal honesty or selfish honesty. Genuine friends are unafraid to confront the truth or the situation, but do so with the best of intentions and in a thoughtful way to help the other person think through things, learn, and grow.
2. Be generous
Healthy friendships do not count favors or compliments. When one starts taking advantage of the generosity of another, that is when trouble can ensue. It is therefore important to be mindful, yet not count every penny spent. Genuine friends do not worry about tit-for-tat.
3. Be discriminating
Healthy friendships are selective. As we get older, we should be more discriminating about who are our friends are. There is only so much time we have for our friends, family, and all the other things in our lives. Why waste time with toxic relationships then? Knowing what is important to us – our values and interests – can help us be more deliberate about who the people are in our lives who are genuine, honest, and unselfish about giving of themselves, as we should be about doing the same.