5 Things to Ditch for 2014
Let’s be honest, there are a lot of things we could live without. For most of us a simpler, easier, more enjoyable life is desired. This year instead of adding in more, maybe it’s time for less. Remove these five things from your life this year and enjoy the simplicity that follows.
1. Perfection – it’s the impossible goal. We seem to ourselves to this unachievable standard, and sometimes without even realizing it. You are your own harshest critic, teacher, drill sergeant, and boss.
“Give up being perfect for being authentic. Be who you are. Love who you are.” – Hal Elrod
Cut yourself a little slack. You are a human being, and making mistakes is a part of the gig. A little humor, compassion, and forgiveness go a long way. You’re probably pretty good at doling out those things to others, why not try giving it to yourself this year?
2. Self-sabotaging thoughts – it’s time to quiet the little voice in your head that tries to convince you that you’re not enough, not loved, don’t belong, inadequate, or incapable. If you haven’t made friends with it yet, now is the time, because it’s not going anywhere.
This part of your ego is there to keep you comfortable and safe, but unfortunately it will tell you anything to do try and reduce danger or risk. That means it’s constantly funneling limiting thoughts into your mind. You get to choose which voice you want to listen to, that one, or a deeper intelligence (your intuiton).
“Why are we so quick to limit the possibility of our own happiness?” – Steve Maraboli
Open yourself back up to the potential of being incredibly happy, successful, loved, and fulfilled. Chose your thoughts mindfully, remembering they shape your reality.
3. Being Super Woman – No, you don’t need to do it all. You likely try though… juggling responsibilities of being a working woman, best friend, social butterfly, loving partner, and maybe a caring parent. When you try to be everything for everyone you end up pleasing no one, leading to exhaustion, frustration, and feeling defeated.
“People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you.” – Abraham Hicks
Honor your own values and intentions, and stay true to those. Sometimes people won’t like that, and sometimes it will be heard. But in the end, you will be living a life you can be proud of. Don’t be afraid to stand your ground, and maybe piss a couple people off in the process. Your true friends, family, and fans will stick by your side, and the rest aren’t meant to be there.
4. Future Tripping – This exhausting act of worrying about the future you can do without. It’s really fun to dream about what you want, and it’s a great idea to make goals that help guide you. When thoughts of the future start to take over they bring you out of the present, which means you miss out on any enjoyment that might be there. It also induces higher levels of stress and anxiety.
“If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.” – Lao Tzu
This year let go of the need to plan and predict everything that’s going to happen later on. You really can’t control how it all plays out anyway, so why spend so much energy trying to make that happen? And well you’re at it, resist the tendency to spend too much time in the past judging or regretting what already happened. There’s some really amazing things happening all around you, be present for it.
5. Wearing Masks – Take off the labels, and leave fake and false to big night out lashes. We hide behind fronts all day long, so we don’t have to reveal who we really are. This might give you the illusion of feeling safe, but what it really does is block your true gifts and true self from shining.
“Wearing a mask wears you out. Faking it is fatiguing. The most exhausting activity is pretending to be what you know you aren’t.” – Rick Warren
Ditch the mask. It will feel vulnerable at first, but soon after you’ll notice a sense of freedom and ease. When you can live your life by simply being yourself and doing what you love, you’ve achieved more than most. There’s something wonderful underneath that you’re hiding, let it out for the world to see.