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Are You Hammering Away at the Wrong Things?

Posted June 2, 2013 by Melissa Foster in Life After Five

There is a productivity obsession among driven women (myself included). But here’s the thing: soaking up loads of productivity tips and leaning on willpower in an attempt to stay on top of things is not enough carry you towards meaningful productivity.

If you’re going to work at being efficient and productive, you might as well check in to see if you are working towards the “right” stuff. (That’s an inside job, by the way.)

Learn where to steer your life by giving attention to the following three important, yet easily overlooked, basics of leading your life.

Note: This is not about perfection. It’s about getting honest with yourself and increasing your awareness.

1) Knowing your purpose

I know. Daunting, right?

There was a time when I used to frantically search for my purpose/calling. I was a big stressball trying hard to find what lit me up, because I didn’t want to waste time in the wrong life.

It wasn’t until I read Finding Your Own North Star by Martha Beck that I was able to see that my focus needed to shift.

Now I fully understand that things will line up as they should you when you take the pressure off of yourself, relax, and stop grasping for your ultimate calling. Be open to it. Allow it. But don’t try to hunt it down or you’ll end up on a dead-end road.

Follow your nose. Follow your joy. As cheesy as it sounds, that’s the best way to put one foot in front of the other. Interested in hearing what the oh-so-brilliant Martha Beck has to say on this topic? Well it’s your lucky day because she is co-hosting a free call this week (10/10) to cover some clear cut ways to line up with your life purpose. She has a unique way of bringing this crazy topic back down to earth.

2) Acknowledging The Feminine Within

As women, it’s easy to turn the feminine off while we push through things. We’re on a mission!

Going about things in this way skips the most powerful part within us.

I don’t know how to explain exactly what it is, but there is a palpable difference between the energetic force that women have access to and the force that men have access to.

It’s soft but strong. And it’s beautiful.

It’s just a part of who we are and serves us well if we know how to access it; how to allow it to lead.

For many of us, embracing this “thing” is not an easy feat (which is why people like Tonya Leigh can be such a godsend).

Notice as you begin to tune-in to this amazing part of yourself, certain areas of your life will begin to shift in ways that will make a lot of sense to you. And that makes it easy to step more fully into who you really are. As you operate from this place and put one foot in front of the other, there is an undeniable ease and flow that accompanies your experience as you move towards your goals and milestones.

3) Stepping Back As You Start Your Day

Spending just 5-10 minutes every morning in gratitude and setting your intention will establish the tone for your day in a powerful way.


Whether you get your coffee and sit down to write in your gratitude journal, or mentally list things for which you are grateful, starting your morning off from a place of gratitude kicks off your day from a state of abundance. THAT is the best, most productive place from which to work/create.


Setting an intention for the day promotes productivity in a big way. After glancing over the current day’s schedule, ask yourself, “How do I want to feel today?

After you’ve chosen how you want to feel (e.g. productive, at peace, creative, playful, amped up, etc.), ask yourself, “What do I need to think and do to make that happen?

Your answers to these questions help you get clear about how you want to show up and enable you to create it for yourself.


Play with these basics in your own life. Notice where you’d like to give more attention. And then watch with fascination as you begin to show up differently in your world.


About the Author

Melissa Foster

A productivity consultant for startups founders and entrepreneurs, Melissa Foster is on a mission to help her clients and readers create flow in their lives... and get big things done. A certified life coach, Melissa's hyper-focused, energetic approach is coupled with wisdom, warmth, and wit. You can get more from Melissa by visiting her website.