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Disappointed? Try Again.

Let’s take a stroll down memory lane together. You’re about 16, you have a curfew and you’re late. Your mom or dad is waiting up for you and when you walk in the door, they start the “you missed your curfew” lecture. ...

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Extrovert vs. Introvert: Which One Are You?

Introvert and extrovert tend to be mislabeled.  Often, when people think of an extrovert, they think of a friendly, outgoing person and conversely think of an introvert as a quiet, shy person.  These qualities may be true to ...

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The Magic Ratio That Will Improve Your Relationships

We’re all starting to learn that in healthy relationships, there is inevitable conflict. Couples have gotten smarter recently because when they come into my office, they usually say that they want to figure out how to fight s...


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Only YOU Can Name Your Relationship Needs

The best way to get your relationship needs met is to name them. A recent fight I heard was about phone calls and the expectations about when to call. Often times we make assumptions based on the way we tend to behave. If you a...

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How to Make Your Birthday Sparkle

Summer birthdays are the best (in my opinion) and my summer seems to be jam-packed with them. In celebrating my own and others, conversations about birthdays have been prevalent.  I’ve learned about how some people love thei...

knowbetter

“When we know better, we do better.”

The incomparable Maya Angelou has a quote made popular by the arguably more famous Oprah Winfrey which is, “When we know better, we do better.” When I first heard this quote, it resonated.  I used it to relate to my client...


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The Power of Female Relationships

We’ve been busy the past two weeks looking at our negative self-talk and getting ahead of shame. To supplement our internal dialogue shift, I thought I’d talk about how female friendships turbo kick our ability to positivel...

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Getting Ahead of Shame

Last week we talked about identifying our negative self-talk and shame voices in “Tackling Negative Self-Talk: Are You Lying to You?” I asked you to pay attention to often you have shaming thoughts. Did you keep tra...

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Tackling Negative Self-Talk: Are You Lying to You?

Quite a bit of my work with women is about negative self-talk. Somewhere along the way women have started to smack talk themselves, to tell themselves lies about their abilities and image of themselves. This is quite easy to do...


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How Do You Communicate? Process Oriented or Solution Focused?

The two biggest complaints that show up in couples who come into my office are sex and communication. I started the sex conversation using the 50 Shades of Grey book as a catalyst in my last post. To continue the conversation, ...