Becoming A Mom: Different Journeys

Posted April 15, 2013 by Monica O'Connell in Life After Five



The Mom topic continues today.  It’s moving from your mom to you as a mom.  This is written for women who think they’d like to become moms, are growing kids in their bodies currently, are currently growing kids through adoption paperwork and/or are already a mom.

Getting pregnant is different for everyone. You might get pregnant on the first try.  It might take hormones, planning and tears.  It’s about your journey.

No infertility experience is the same.  You might struggle, your partner might struggle, your family as well.  It might be a secret, you might want to blog about it.  The best way for you to do it is the best way to do it.

No pregnancy is the same.  You might love how your body changes and stretches and grows and revel in every second.  You might be battle body image issues.  You might be sick as a dog.  It’s not about how your friends say pregnancy is supposed to go, it’s about how it is for you.

Will you deliver in a hospital? Will you deliver at home? Will you use a midwife? Will you use an epidural? Will you make a birth plan? Do you want your family to be there? Do you have a lot of fears about delivery? Do you feel confident about delivery? All of those get to be about the very best thing for your family, you and your child.  There is no wrong answer.  I promise.

Can you breastfeed? Will you breastfeed? Is your child going to benefit from breastfeeding? Will you have a happy baby? A healthy baby? A colicky baby? Some health concerns? This is about your baby and making the best decision for their health.  There is plenty of research, opinions and politics.  You decide based on your information, your experience, your opinion and your politics.

Cloth diapers? Disposable diapers? Organic baby food? 2 months of maternity leave? 5 months maternity of leave? Going back to work? Working from home? Swaddle or not? Sleep training? Co-sleeping? You probably get it by now. The best decision is the one that you make.

The best gift to give yourself and your family is to trust your intuition, do your own research, call in support and do it your way.

About the Author

Monica O'Connell

Monica O’Connell is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist in Minneapolis, Minnesota. In her practice, she spends her career cheering on “Career Girls” as they learn how to get the most out of life. Monica works with arguably some of the most successful, intelligent, inspiring women in the Twin Cities who tackle self-discovery, career success, and what’s getting in the way of their true desires. She shares her favorite moments as those “best described not by words but by the stomach aching, face soreness that comes from spending an entire day laughing with loved ones.”