A Career Girl’s Guide to Making Friends in New Cities
From a decade’s worth of personal experience, I have two words of advice when it comes to trying to make a home and build a social network in a new place: do something. Do anything. And do it with passion. Join an adult coed kickball team, join a run club or go on an online date. Volunteer, go to networking events, find a coffee shop you love or become a regular at a local yoga studio. And despite Mom’s once-sage advice, it’s OK to talk to strangers. You’re bound to meet people with similar interests as soon as you start doing things that you love. And you’ll broaden your horizons, discover all kinds of things about your new hometown and have fun in the process.
Making friends, especially as an adult, takes time. Your phone is bound to be radio silent on that one night you really need some after-work drinks and vent about your boss. And you’re probably going to have to go places alone or where you know very few people. But welcome to adulthood! It’s scary and uncomfortable, but the adventures and new connections you will eventually make are completely worth it. Friendships, much like a good career, take time and thoughtfulness to develop so patience and fortitude is key. Sometimes it will feel like a more awkward, albeit slightly boozier, version of a middle-school dance. But that feeling goes away with time if you work at it.
Good friends, whether they’re old or new, are key to our overall well-being. And fortunately, it’s easier than ever to stay in touch across the globe. It’s also easier than ever to connect with like-minded people right around the corner. Whether it’s knitting, reading, football or photography, there is usually some sort of local club to join. Google and Facebook are fantastic resources for local activities.
Making friends as an adult is a funny thing. Where once we were all in it together, now there is no natural set of cohorts with whom to socialize (making friends at work can be a great thing, but not everyone has that opportunity). Single, married, raising children, traveling for work, living in the suburbs, working two jobs, going to graduate school…Career Girls find themselves playing many different roles and it’s not so easy to get out there. But if we’re lucky (and we’re open to it), sometimes we can become life-long friends with the most unlikely of people.