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The Single Career Girl: “I’m Dating Myself.”

I’m a huge fan of the show Parks and Recreation, and on a recent episode, one of the female characters, Anne, made a great comment about being single. Someone asked her if she was dating her ex, and she said something alo...

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How Much Should You Rely On Your Significant Other For Confidence?

This article is not about Kim and Kanye. But it is based on something Kim Kardashian said recently in the press, and The Huffington Post reported: In the December issue of Cosmopolitan U.K., Kim tells editors about how her boyf...

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The Destructive Art of Self-Sabotage

I’m not sure when we got so great at self-sabotage, but it’s become an art form. I myself have become a master, as have many of my friends, and maybe even you. Today a great coach and friend of mine pointed out that I w...


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Learning to Talk About Sex

I love talking about things that typically make other people feel uncomfortable, especially in the therapy world. Those uncomfortable topics are usually money and sex. Last week I presented at a fall conference for marriage and...

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The Single Career Girl: Online Dating Options

We can’t talk about different dating options without talking about online dating. Even though it seems simple in theory, there’s a lot that goes into meeting someone online: You have to select which site to use, fil...

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Life Lessons from Taylor Swift

The Huffington Post, in honor of her album dropping last week, published “10 Life Lessons from Taylor Swift.” Objectively, Ms. Swift has the life experience of an 8th grader, and the emotional intelligence to go wit...


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Take the Negative Self-Talk Out of Dating

I’ve been loving Marcy Farrey’s Saturday posts about single life (which you should totally check out) because conversations about dating are common in my office. The conversations are usually about self and feeling vulnerab...

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The Single Career Girl: Matchmaker, Matchmaker

I’ve shared my experiences with singles mixers and speed dating. Now it’s time to get to the good stuff! What about using matchmaking services? Matchmaking services are certainly pricier and they require a commitmen...

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Family Matters: Splitting Holidays

Being in a relationship means making compromises. What’s important to one partner sometimes must be weighed against what is important to other partners. But when you jump into a relationship or even a marriage, it’s...


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4 Issues that Lead to Breakups

We’ve talked about the magic ratio to keep your relationship healthy, so I want to help you be on the lookout for four things that will eventually take any relationship down the breakup path. John Gottman, a renowned research...