Where Are You Lacking Consistency in Your Life?

Posted August 5, 2013 by Monica O'Connell in Life After Five


Consistency is key.

I’ll be honest. I’m really, really great at starting a new project, new goal, and new way of doing something.  6am workouts? The first week, I am totally there, super committed and so into it.  The second week? Ummmmmm…. Well…… OK I’ll do it and I can pull it off. The 3rd week? I think I should adjust my goal. I should workout at 6pm instead.

Ever happen in your life? Not just with working out. Being consistent in what we do can show up a lot of different ways.

  • Healthy Eating.
  • Being on time.
  • Answering the phone when your friends call.
  • Spending time with your besties.
  • Promptly returning emails
  • Working out
  • Time with your partner
  • You get the idea.

Of course, I understand that all of these things need to fit into your oversize, jam packed mega life.  It seems best to spend some time thinking about what goals you have and how you want to be in your life. What drives your desires? What makes your heart sing?  What helps keep you afloat?

We all struggle with being consistent in different areas. For some of us, returning emails promptly doesn’t make a huge difference, isn’t a struggle and/or maybe we don’t really even use email to communicate often. Perhaps that’s also where you’re consistent and you don’t even know it.  You shoot back an email no problem.

Some people intuitively eat well. They don’t need to do much work or focus often on healthy eating in order to be consistent.

Knowing where you struggle to be consistent and where you’d like to be is key for you.

Also adjusting our goals to fit into our lives really helps with consistency.  With your work schedule how it is and all of your extracurricular activities, seeing your best friend twice a week will be a major fail. You wind up canceling and rescheduling and being super inconsistent.  Instead, be honest about what works. Once a week and one phone call a week means that you can show up almost all of the time? Choose that instead.

Consistency helps us build and maintain trust with ourselves and with others in our lives.  What in your life would benefit from some consistency?

About the Author

Monica O'Connell

Monica O’Connell is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist in Minneapolis, Minnesota. In her practice, she spends her career cheering on “Career Girls” as they learn how to get the most out of life. Monica works with arguably some of the most successful, intelligent, inspiring women in the Twin Cities who tackle self-discovery, career success, and what’s getting in the way of their true desires. She shares her favorite moments as those “best described not by words but by the stomach aching, face soreness that comes from spending an entire day laughing with loved ones.”