Afteryesterday’s post, I had more reaction privately than I think I’ve ever had on a post. I’m glad this struck a core with so many of my friends and readers. But I never thought yesterday’s post would have such a profound impact on one person – ME!
As I was re-reading my post yesterday, one sentence stood out. “Trying to make a relationship work with men that really don’t fit their lifestyle or criteria just to avoid being…oh, god….alone.” And in it, I substituted these words. “Trying to make a position work with a company/path that doesn’t fit my lifestyle or criteria just to avoid being…oh, god…unemployed.”
I had a stack of jobs to apply to last night in Chicago. And as I re-read this sentence, I threw out half of them. What the hell was I doing applying for “Events Coordinator” positions? I’m two levels above that now – why would I apply for a position I clearly have already surpassed professionally? Because I’m afraid. Just like so many women are afraid they’ll “never find a man”, I’m unbelievably afraid I’ll “never find a job.”
And in my head I hear my father say things like, “a job is a job” and “don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.” But I must remember to hear my own voice and my own ambitions and intentions here. I am leaving Minneapolis to pursue the next opportunity – not the next paycheck. I am making Chicago my next conquest, not my next dead end.
So in the end, my “Don’t Settle” advice wasn’t just for single ladies…but for everyone. The moral of the story is to trust yourself and your abilities and the knowledge that you know what’s best for you and what you deserve. Trust and don’t settle, and you (or rather, I) will be fine.