Dreading Monday? What That Means and How to Change It
I once met an incredible woman named Roxanne Emmerich, who wrote a book called Thank God It’s Monday. Her purpose? To make people love their jobs so much they’d actually be excited to go to work Monday morning! When I met Roxanne, her energy was infectious, and I thought, “Yes! I want to love Mondays, too!”
But the sad truth is, most of us don’t love Mondays…we dread them. For various reasons:
- Perhaps we hate our jobs.
- Or just our commutes.
- Maybe it’s your boss….
- Or you hate getting dressed up for work and heels make your feet hurt.
For whatever reason, if you’re dreading Monday, I want to break down for you two piece of the pie – what it means, and how to change it.
Dreading Monday: What It Means (A Few Theories):
- You’re bored. If you’re being challenged and enjoying your work, you won’t dread going there and doing it. But if you’re feeling bored and lackluster, you’re going to wish you could be at home enjoying yourself and working on projects that excite you.
- There’s drama. Whether it’s your boss’ constant yelling or a coworkers complaining and negative attitude, drama in the office can make anyone hate Mondays even more than normal.
- You’re in over your head. Different than being bored, you might be unhappy because either A) you’re not sure what you’re doing and can’t keep faking it or B) you don’t have enough staff, help, or other support.
- Location, location, location. It could be your geographic location. It could be the Feng Shui of your office. But either way, to be engaged on a Monday, you have to enjoy where you’re working. No one wants to sit in a dark box all day, and no one wants to take a red eye to get to the office three times a week, either.
So How Do I Change?
- Find a pet project that relates to your job and is inside your company. While you probably don’t want to tell your boss you’re bored, per se, you could tell her you’re ready for a new challenge. Look outside your department, even. Maybe you could get involved in some charitable organizations’ projects your company is already doing, or spearhead a women’s initiative.
- Set up meetings outside the office. If you’re always having lunch with that complaining coworker and she’s just bringing you down, stop! You don’t have to blow her off, but you can start to schedule some lunches with friends or networking connections to fill in the blanks and bring some outside positivity into your day.
- Ask for help. Too often, women are drowning for months before we ask for a life jacket. How do you know someone isn’t there ready to help you now? If your company can’t hire more help, propose an internship program and take the initiative to search for an intern on your own and bring their application to your boss. If you’re in trouble, get help early!
- Bring to your office one thing from home that makes you truly happy. If you wish you could snuggle with your pup all day instead of working in a damp basement, bring one of his toys with you to remind you of what awaits the end of the day. Invest in a digital picture frame to scroll through inspirational photos and vistas that keep you smiling. You can’t always control where you work, but you can make minimal changes to change the mood.
I hope all of you will one day be in a job (or are already) where you’ll say “Thank God It’s Monday!” But in the meantime, try these tips to mitigate the feelings of stress and anxiety you have about the dreaded first day of the week.