That’s why I was excited to see Bruce Kasanoff show a new theory on his recently LinkedIn blog post. He showed this diagram.
The thing I love about this diagram is that it isn’t in the clouds. Sure, it would be nice to do what your strengths and passions dictate, but you live in the real world, Career Girls, and you absolutely have to consider your obligations in life when you’re deciding what you’ll love to do as well.
An example: I absolutely love my family. My brother and sister-in-law and their children along with my parents are incredibly important to me. You could put them in the category of “obligation.” It might sound like a negative connotation, but it’s not. It’s a responsibility and a love of my family I take very seriously, and it therefore might be considered an obligation. So here’s the question, if my strengths and passions tell me I’m supposed to start a women’s organization, how do I do that when considering my obligations? For me, I chose to start Career Girl in Chicago rather than New York or San Francisco. Why? Because I’m closer to my family. I can get there by a quick flight or a train ride, which I couldn’t do on either coast. Therefore, I’ve found my sweet spot. I considered not just my strengths and passions, but also my obligations. If I had only considered the first two aspects, I might be living somewhere else but miserable and wishing I could find that sweet spot.
Where are your sweet spots? Have you been ignoring one of these three aspects?