Four Tips for Firing Your Boss
If you hate your job and are itching to get the heck out of dodge, what are you waiting for? I used to ask myself this question at least 10 times a day while cutting my teeth in corporate America for 10 years. What held me back and kept me from moving on and firing my boss? Fear. Fear of whether I would find something “better”, and as “stable”. I spent 2 years contemplating, fearing the future and despising Monday’s. That was 24 months of a happy career and life that I will never get back. Eventually, I jumped ship, fired my boss, and left corporate America and have not looked back since. Whether you are looking to leave your current job to pursue a new career or your dream of becoming your own boss,
Here are 4 tips to ease your fear and help you get there:
- Assess and evaluate. If you are in an abusive work situation, you should consult with your human resources office immediately. If you are just plain miserable, you may want to ask yourself: “What is right about my situation?” Is your work life truly unbearable or would a shift in your attitude make a difference? A positive attitude is a choice, and if you make that choice enough times, it becomes a habit. In the words of Maya Angelou, “If you do not like something, change it, and if you can’t change it, change your attitude”. Easier said than done I know. I narrowly escaped what I call a “corporate America induced nervous breakdown” myself. As I reflect back on the situation, I am certain that I needed an attitude adjustment. Would I have felt more fulfilled if I had a better attitude though? No way!
- Why? Why? Why? Why do you want something different? If you are like me, and half of the rest of the American population, it is because your values do not align with the company’s and you therefore, lack the feeling of career fulfillment. Humans long to help others and by nature, and we want to do what we can to make the world a better place. Everybody has a different definition of success and fulfillment. For me, it is following your calling and utilizing your God given talents to help others to realize and utilize theirs. Leaving your current job and jumping into another one that you will eventually hate can be a vicious cycle of regret. I realize that there are many risks associated with change and that there are others in your life to consider like your children and spouse. Though my spouse was not exactly supportive, as I regained my sanity, he quickly grew to be. By following my passion strategically, I knew that in the long run, I would become a better mother and wife.
- Plan ahead. While it would be incredibly liberating to plow into to your boss’s office and tell them that are fired and that you quit, you may kick yourself and regret it later once your adrenaline rush wears off. Weigh the advantages and disadvantages carefully. Regardless of how much you may hate where you work, it is always best to give at least a 2 week notice. Better to go out with a bang rather than as a pain! Update your resume with your recent achievements, recognition, awards and initiatives that you implemented. Gather any materials that you are legally able to take with you. Data from your annual reviews, copies of award certificates earned and other materials that showcase your value can give you ammunition and help you in your future endeavors. Save up to cover at least nine months of expenses. If you quit, you will not be eligible for unemployment. Look into health coverage options well in advance especially if you cannot get under your spouse’s right away.
- Be prepared to commit 110 % +. When you quit your job to become an entrepreneur like I did, you have to be willing to work around the clock, be passionate about your work, and have the drive and strength of a Clydesdale on steroids. Being your own boss is not easy. But it sure as heck is rewarding and fulfilling. Before firing my boss, I worked a minimum of 20 extra hours a week outside of my corporate job to build my career coaching business. A lot of extra time, planning and added stress goes into making your dreams become a reality. Anything worth achieving takes a lot of hard work. Believe me. It was worth it to me. Changing careers is not easy either. I have seen too many people select a new career path for the wrong reasons not knowing exactly what it is they were leaping into. They just took the leap because it seemed like it would be easier or less stressful and then found themselves back in the same desperate situation. Set realistic expectations. As the saying goes, the grass may not be greener on the other side.
It is easy to get caught up in the stress and madness of hating your job. This can cloud your judgment and you may find yourself making compulsive decisions that end up doing more harm than good in your life and career. Whatever it is you aspire to do, make sure it is for the right reasons, avoid making uninformed decisions, plan and prepare well enough in advance. Fire your boss with grace and integrity, move forward with passion, purpose, and dedication. And perhaps, most importantly, do what makes you happy as long as what you are doing changes the world for the better, one person at a time.