From FOMO to JOMO – The New Trend?

Posted January 22, 2014 by Rebecca Niziol in On the Ladder


FOMO = Fear of Missing Out

JOMO = Joy of Missing Out

It’s plagued us for years, and been the main cause for a lot of indecision, unhappiness, and regret. FOMO might seem just like a catchy little phrase that some hipster made up, but what it represents is very real. It is “the grass is greener on the other side” in daily life. FOMO is letting our life be dictated by shoulds and coulds, instead of true desires.

The fear of missing out is the sneaky little cousin of guilt. It makes us believe that we should be somewhere other than where we are in this moment, and somehow made the wrong choice. And like most fears, it creates illusions that gain more power each time we believe in them, until we convince ourselves that our fear is the truth.

When you buy into FOMO you are taking away your own right to be happy and at peace with where you are in the moment.

So here are a few ladies offering an alternative:

Not hearing the term JOMO before this, I was intrigued. What is the joy of missing out? Both women explain how finding joy in saying “no” and missing out on some of the moments we feel obligated to be present for is a win-win. JOMO seems to stand for that feeling that comes from following your intuition, taking space for yourself, and enjoying time to unwind from the stress of daily life. Bell hints that more and more people are committed to finding it, and references a trend in overall mindfulness as of late.

Finding joy in missing out is an interesting concept. Being a “glass is half full” kind of gal I’m all for finding joy in every moment, and can see where these ladies are going with this. I’d like to take it a step further.

If we’re truly living authentically, saying yes and no when necessary, there is no missing out. There are only conscious choices that lead us one way or another. It is only when we believe that we are missing out, that fear or loss is given the room to be present in our minds. When you realize you’re never missing out, then joy floods in… with a lot more peace of mind. You can move beyond the illusion of missing out and have more joy in your life.

It’s impossible to miss out if you’re fully engaged in the present moment where you are.

If JOMO is a fun new phrase or hashtag that helps you to remember to take time for you, then make it your own. But perhaps the real replacement for FOMO is the honesty to admit that you’re never missing out, because where you’re meant to be is right here right now. Find joy in being present. JIBP doesn’t sound cool or make a great hastag, but it does provide you with a strategy for living a happy and fulfilled life.

About the Author

Rebecca Niziol

Rebecca Niziol, ELI-MP, is many things: a life coach, yoga teacher, dancer, event planner, connection catalyst, and your new best friend. Her mission is to empower others to live the authentic life of their dreams. After years of traveling North America and Europe, she is happy to have found a home and community in Chicago.