Glasses: yea or nay?

Posted September 24, 2009 by Marcy Twete in Building Your Brand

There’s a scene in Sex and the City (the one where Charlotte dates the “gay straight man”) where a man kisses Charlotte unexpectedly on a “non-date” and she tells the girls, “I was in my glasses!” as if it’s the horror of horrors that she went on a date with glasses on.

I’m blind as a bat, have been for years. But those who know me well have still rarely seen me in glasses. I’m very much like Charlotte. Unless it’s been a long night of drinking, I’m sick or just crawling into bed, I am contacts all the way.

Recently, though, a man told me glasses are sexy – and said it in that “mmmm, glasses” way that really makes you go hmmm.

So I did a little googling and found that maybe I should think about wearing my specs more often. The Definitive Book of Body Language: Why What People Say Is Very Different from What They Think or Feel by Barbara Pease & Allan Pease tells us women who wear glasses are seen as “being more studious and intelligent, particularly in the early stages of a meeting.”

The most interesting thing I found, though, in their analysis is this: “Women wearing both glasses and makeup are described as confident, intelligent, sophisticated, and outgoing.” See part of my issue with women (I’m generalizing, but bear with me) who wear glasses is that they often skip eye makeup. But apparently, my tactic with glasses is the right one – regular makeup, then glasses.

So on top of striking the fancy of men who like glasses, maybe I should get over my “but I’m in my glasses” idea and wear them more often. Project.

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Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is a career fundraiser turned corporate responsibility executive, a career and networking expert and the author of the book "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works."