Growing Up in Business

Posted August 23, 2011 by Marcy Twete in On the Ladder
There is a notion in this country, in this day and age, that once you’ve graduated college you’ve “grown up.” It’s a verb. It’s a noun. You are now a “grown up.” But we forget, in fact, that growing up continues long after we stroll from our alma maters into the working world. We spend a lifetime “growing up” in business.

It doesn’t happen often that we’re able to literally see the differences between our true self today and our true self say, three years ago. Yesterday, though, I saw clearly my own process of growing up. Early in the day I received word that I would not, as previously expected, be taking the lead on a project I was extremely passionate about. I was colossally disappointed.. But I held my head high, I said, “Something else will come along. I will have a chance to lead a client like this one, and it will come soon” and I just kept moving.

What was remarkable was my ability to recognized in that moment what I might have done three or four years ago. Then, I would have cried in the bathroom. I would have asked a friend to lunch and cried, bitched and moaned to her about my problems, and I might have even taken the rest of the day off to sulk. Because that’s what my 23 year old self did with disappointment.

Yesterday, though, I kept moving. It got me down for all of 90 seconds and I moved on. I thought about writing a blog post about disappointment at that moment, but I didn’t. I pressed myself into other projects and tried to forget how sad I was to lose that one. And low and behold, the afternoon rolled around and I find our original idea was, in fact, approved, and here I am back taking the lead on the project. Now wouldn’t I have felt stupid if I’d pouted, cried or gone home to sulk?

That, my friends, is growing up in business. And I’m blessed to have had the unique opportunity to see with open eyes the way in which my attitudes and tendencies have matured over the years. Think about this in your lives today. We don’t necessarily always take the time to congratulate ourselves for growth. But we should. And today, I am.

About the Author

Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is a career fundraiser turned corporate responsibility executive, a career and networking expert and the author of the book "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works."