Happy Weekend?

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Posted May 13, 2013 by Monica O'Connell in Life After Five
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The weekend is often portrayed as super fun. We can go to parties, find patios of spring/summertime bliss, catch up with those long lost partners/boyfriends/girlfriends we haven’t seen the whole week and hang out with all of our amazing friends.  But for some people, weekends do not always feel “super fun” but instead can be “triggery”, sometimes really lonely and can be challenging.  Are you on the “triggery” side? Let me help you make your weekend better.

First, let’s define what I mean by triggery:

  • Workout Trigger: I didn’t get to them all week so I totally shame myself about it and tell myself I have to workout for X amount of hours this weekend to make up for it.  Or I am so exhausted I park it on the couch for the weekend and make myself feel awful about it.
  • Diet Trigger: I eat really clean during the week and pretty regimented and on the weekend I no longer have a schedule, there are way more less healthy food choices and I have a lot of time on my hands.
  • Dating Trigger: I make great decision about dating, I feel confident during the week. On the weekend I’m stalking my new boyfriend’s ex girlfriend on Facebook or I am checking my phone every 2.3 seconds to see if they texted me or not.

Lonely Weekend?:

  • I’m single and all of my friends are married with children.
  • My partner is out of town and I usually spend that time catching up with him.
  • I got to the weekend and forgot to plan anything because I was so busy this week.

Challenging Weekend?:

  • See above.
  • I struggle to balance work/life so I want to be present but the push notifications on my email wont stop.
  • I work really hard at being busy during the week so I don’t have to look at X problem I’m not yet ready to deal with and when the weekend comes, it hits, hard.

Most Important……

Solution to a Better Weekend:

  • Take time (I know, you’re busy) to write down your ideal weekend. What does it include? My must-have-weekend-moments for the over functioning introvert include a lot of down time including cooking meals at home, a fav yoga class, meditation and getting outside as much as possible.  For you it might totally be about the people, energy of your city and mega adventures.
  • Whatever it is, try to accomplish as many off of your ideal weekend list, every weekend.
  • Create structure.  If you’re eating breakfast 5 days a week at 7am waiting until 11:30 when everyone decides to go to brunch is really throwing your body and mind for a loop.  Meet friends for brunch and grab something to nibble on for a snack because you ate breakfast when you got up just like you normally do.
  • I Totally get the “I’m so tired I can’t see straight” type of weekend.  Force yourself to get some exercise even if that’s sun salutation B once every day or a 5 minute walk around the block.  You’ll feel so much better.

If you find that your weekends are not what you want them to be try some of these solutions. And don’t expect too much out of every weekend. That is why they happen every 5 days!

 


About the Author

Monica O'Connell

Monica O’Connell is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist in Minneapolis, Minnesota. In her practice, she spends her career cheering on “Career Girls” as they learn how to get the most out of life. Monica works with arguably some of the most successful, intelligent, inspiring women in the Twin Cities who tackle self-discovery, career success, and what’s getting in the way of their true desires. She shares her favorite moments as those “best described not by words but by the stomach aching, face soreness that comes from spending an entire day laughing with loved ones.”

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