Holiday Season 2012: 4 Sure-Fire Ways to Revel in Joy

Posted November 25, 2012 by Melissa Foster in Features

The holiday season is officially here! For many, this is the most stressful time of the year. There is a tendency to create unhealthy and unnecessary holiday stress. Yes, there is a lot added to our to-do lists during the holidays, but that doesn’t mean it has to be painful.

Prevent burn-out, anxiety, dread, exhaustion, and irritability with a few simple steps. Set aside 10 minutes in a quiet place to work through these suggestions and plug in your own answers/realities. You’ll be glad you didJ

1 — Set Your Intention for the Holidays

Setting your intention is POWERFUL. It is the seed for what unfolds. It doesn’t matter how big or small the situation, intention is the guiding force.

FYI: You can use this before an event (meeting, party, gathering, etc.) or the holidays in general.

Use these two questions to create what you really want this holiday season:

*Who do I want to be in the situation?

Let’s face it. None of us want to be an impatient boob or an exhausted zombie. We become those things when we feel stressed out and reactive. The opposite of reacting is creating. So, get CREATE-ive and see who you want to be during the holidays.

Example: “I want to be a relaxed and happy spouse/partner/parent/person who always stays centered.”

*How do I want to feel?

This is similar to the previous question and an important element to add. Learning to tap in and intend positive feelings is a big part of getting clear. When you tell yourself how you want to feel, then you begin to learn that you are the only one who can generate your feelings of joy, despair, etc.

Answering these two questions for the holidays will help you get really clear about what you want, which allows you to create that very thing! 

2 — Get Real About Your Expectations

Setting high expectations for the holidays can leave you feeling deflated and frustrated.

The lofty goals that you set may be realistic any other time of year. During the holiday season, however, your environment may literally work against you (not on how you feel, but on the action necessary to get things done)…

Holiday parties to prepare for and attend, long lines, heavy traffic, sweet treats everywhere you turn, etc.: These are the realities of the holiday season. Account for them as you plan and schedule.

P.S. The world will not end if you skip a Christmas party or buy fewer gifts.

3 — Self Care

This is not the time to skimp on nurturing yourself. You’ve got a lot going on this time of year and you don’t want to be running on empty – mentally, physically, or spiritually.

SCHEDULE, in advance, time for YOU.  Keep that appointment like you would a meeting with your boss. It can be as little as 15 minutes.

To help you get started, here some things you could schedule:

*read a book * take a bubble bath *get a massage *get a mani/pedi *take a walk *meditate *dance to your favorite music (Yes, I said dance. Shut the door and boogie down!) *read your favorite magazine

Do whatever rejuvenates you and brings you JOY!

4 – Gain Some Altitude

Prevent full-fledged frustration by keeping things in perspective.

When you notice that you are getting frustrated this season, nip it:

Visualize rising above and looking down on the holiday season. Spend a few minutes here. When you have this big picture view, you see things for what they are and gain some clarity.

Gaining altitude on a situation actually makes it difficult to get caught up in the details and drama!


Don’t miss the point of the holidays. Create a beautiful experience and enjoy the season.

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Melissa Foster

A productivity consultant for startups founders and entrepreneurs, Melissa Foster is on a mission to help her clients and readers create flow in their lives... and get big things done. A certified life coach, Melissa's hyper-focused, energetic approach is coupled with wisdom, warmth, and wit. You can get more from Melissa by visiting her website.