How Much of Your Story Are You Really Writing?

Posted April 1, 2013 by Marcy Twete in On the Ladder
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We all want to leave a legacy. Not just at the end of our lives, but throughout, we want to craft both lives and careers that leave each company better when we leave than when we came, that affects our colleagues and friends positively, and that allows us to feel accomplished both personally and professionally.

Two of my favorite bloggers over at Marc and Angel Hack Life recently wrote an incredibly poignant post called “7 Questions You Will Ask at the End of Your Life.” One of those questions struck me as truly profound. Here it is:

How much of my story did I actually write?

Don’t let anyone convince you that you aren’t strong enough.  Your growth potential is as vast as your thinking.  You are as powerful and capable as you know yourself to be.

If you give in and let other people’s negativity convince you of who you are, their madness will wither you away.  You will morph into who they say you are, rather than living honestly as yourself.  In this way, these people will steal your life from you.  You will lose track of where their opinion ends and your reality begins.  Their fiction will become your life’s story.

Stay strong.  When someone tries to bully you, stand up for your truth and say, “Not so fast, buddy!  Your delusion of superiority is your problem, not mine.  I am holding the pen and I am writing my own life’s story.”

Perhaps this question struck me so deeply because I’ve been there. I have been in the place where I was not writing my own story, and where my opinion was not the most important one in my life. In fact, I didn’t even realize it was happening until after I left my full time job last year to start Career Girl Network. It was only then that I realized I had become 100% dependent on praise from my bosses and leaders, and had allowed the priorities of others to shape the priorities of my career.

My question for you, Career Girls, is whether you  might be doing the same? You don’t need to become an entrepreneur to write your own story, but you do need to step back from the opinions of others and hone into your own wants, needs, and desires. How can you start writing more of your story today?

About the Author

Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is a career fundraiser turned corporate responsibility executive, a career and networking expert and the author of the book "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works."