How to Connect with Anyone

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Posted April 24, 2013 by Kristen J. Zavo in Networking Buzz
Whether you are looking for new business, a new job, the love of your life (or maybe just a date for Friday night!), networking is an unavoidable fact of life.  Most of us don’t love to do it and could use a little help.  The truth is that no matter what the purpose of your networking, the key to its effectiveness lies in your ability to connect.  That common ground, that spark, that “oh yeah, this person gets me” is what takes you from a business card or profile amongst many, to a person we all want to get to know better…someone we want to buy from, work with, or date – or maybe all three!

I think this Connect With Anyone Creed sums it up perfectly!

Your turn – what are your best tips for connecting with people?  Can you give an example when doing so really elevated the relationship beyond basic networking?

Infographic compliments of Live Your Legend, (a blog devoted to finding and doing work you love).


About the Author

Kristen J. Zavo

Kristen J. Zavo is a finance and strategy professional, with a special interest in the retail industry. Having always been interested in the people side of business, Kristen loves to explore, reflect on, and share stories about the challenges and adventures of being a businesswoman. No topic is off limits - whether it's how to handle being the only woman in the boardroom, or figuring out how to to pack all the "essentials" for a 2-week business trip in just a carry-on! Outside of work, she loves exploring new places, spending time at the beach and meeting friends to workout (spin or yoga, anyone?!).

7 Comments


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    A try to ask about a remember a person’s hobby or special interest (like grandkids). Then, when I see them again, I’m more likely to remember them, and I have something personal to connect with them immediately.




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      I try to ask about and remember a person’s hobby or special interest (like grandkids). Then, when I see them again, I’m more likely to remember them, and I have something personal to connect with them immediately.




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    Kristen J. Zavo

    Great advice, Cecilia! How do you remember these personal facts – do you keep notes in your contact list?




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      I jot them down on the back of their business card or in my contact management system, but I don’t always have the chance to consult these notes before I run into them again. I practice genuine interest, and that helps me file it away. I’m always slightly amazed that months will go by without seeing someone, and the information magically pops into my head and I can ask how their vacation was or what they think about how their sports team is doing.




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    Kristen J. Zavo

    Love it! I think you hit upon a key point – having genuine interest! Thanks so much for your comments.




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    Judy Wallace

    I agree with Cecilia. Taking an interest in people’s lives is key in building a connection.

    Here is something that I find helpful: The ability to articulate (with passion) what you do in a way that is relevant to others is key in connecting. Listen to what is important, pay attention to non-verbal ques and think in terms of how you can be of service to those around you.




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    Kristen J. Zavo

    Judy, great tips. The ability to articulate your expertise and show how that can be used to help someone else, takes both practice and self-awareness, but is essential when it comes to connecting.





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