Independent and Vulnerable – The New Fabulous

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Posted August 5, 2014 by Hannah Hylla in Life After Five
 

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Independence – I believe it’s one of the best traits a successful woman (and even man) can acquire. It’s having the ability to take a life changing opportunity and have the courage to pursue it with confidence.

Three months ago, I pursued a new job opportunity that took me from marketing to sales, from the hospitality industry to the medical field, and the biggest shocker (for many) from Minneapolis, Minn. to Lincoln, Neb. The bigger kicker is that I moved all by myself while only knowing two or three people in my new city.A move could be one of the most stressful events in your life. You feel vulnerable and alone at times – but you learn the world about yourself in the process. Moving is a mind game. If you choose to embrace each and every experience, good or bad, with a good attitude you will make the best out of your new situation. I like to say that I have had a lot of “new adventures” in the past few months. So, I encourage you, become vulnerable by being independent in some way, shape or form in your life.
I like to think that Forbes offers some great secrets to success in their article The Fastest Way To Success: Vulnerability.
Having a healthy relationship with vulnerability is one of the most admirable traits a person can have. It carries continuous benefit(s) throughout life when used properly. The way to use it accurately is to not perceive it as only an agent of discomfort and fear, but develop a healthy, balanced relationship with it. A well-adjusted relationship with vulnerability makes way for knowing ourselves better—and can many times create substantial growth that cascades positively to important areas in life.
Vulnerability Disruption—Daily Doses of Things to Do
Origin and source–ask yourself where vulnerabilities come from and what keeps powering them. Watch for when you speak to the mirror–when you find yourself picking apart things in others, you may be scratching the surface of one of your own vulnerabilities.
Give vulnerability fair balance – Don’t lie to yourself and view vulnerability as only a negative source. Accept that vulnerability is a good place to be. Being vulnerable is a great way to mitigate against living with regret.
Got trends? Look for any trends of vulnerability across your life – If you find any, are you going let them last forever if deemed to be an antagonist to your goals in life? If not forever, how long will you allow them to last? Set a real date and begin to dismantle and disrupt any false beliefs. You don’t have to change overnight. The long play here is completely fine. And what do I get in return you ask?
By being more vulnerable you get:

  • More adventure
  • Transcendent, personal growth
  • Richer, sweeter, altered outlook on life
  • Fearlessness
  • Greater love
  • Greater friendship
  • Greater relationships personally and professional

So, of course, you don’t have to make a big move to be vulnerable in your personal or work life. But with any big change comes the opportunity to let your independent and fearless self shine. I have learned to do things on my own and I’ve really had to put myself out there to network and meet new people, which is a dose of medicine that you can add to your life, even when you don’t make a large move.

  • Volunteer – I have learned that when you spend your free-time doing something you enjoy, it’s rewarding. Is there another career area you’ve always been interested in but don’t have intentions of pursuing? Volunteer. I decided to get a very part-time volunteer position at the local hospital, I’ve been given the opportunity to meet people with similar interests, educate myself in new areas, and really put myself out there – I’ve been vulnerable.
  • Join a gym – Attend classes, introduce yourself to people, or make it a goal to get back into shape, make yourself vulnerable.
  • Treat others with kindness and respect – I like to follow the old saying “treat others how you would like to be treated.” Start a conversation with a random stranger at a coffee shop. Talk to people, everyone has a story to tell. Just listen. Tell people your story. In the beginning, right after I made the big move, I would let people know that I had just moved to the city, this lead to new friendships and even knew networking opportunities – not to mention it’s a great conversation starter!
  • Join business networking groups – Look for young professionals groups, you will meet business savvy people that are motivated to!
  • Take time for the little things – My job is a little more flexible than others but sometimes you need to release stress and take the time to enjoy the simple things. A few weeks ago, I was working in this cute, small town in Western Nebraska, I was in need of Wifi, so I ran into a local coffee shop. Anyone that knows me, knows how much I love coffee. Immediately, when I walked in I was taken aback by the quaintness, so I decided to stay and enjoy a cup for a few minutes instead of immediately running out to my next appointment. Take the time to stop and smell the roses!
  • Explore. Treat every experience as an adventure – When traveling for work, take the time to have new adventures. For me, everything in Nebraska is new. When I do travel out to Western Nebraska and spend the night, I go hiking at the National Parks to release stress and see new places!

You don’t have to make a move to try new things and become vulnerable. These are simple things that you can add to your everyday life – it’s all about change and the courage to pursue the unknown with confidence. Be independent and I know you will thank yourself one day.


About the Author

Hannah Hylla

Hannah Hylla is a Pharmaceutical Sales Representative for GlaxoSmithKline in Lincoln, Neb. She recently made the transition into the Pharmaceutical Industry and a large move from Minneapolis, Minn. to "The Good Life" for the job opportunity! Hannah is truly thrilled to be spending her "free-time" doing something she loves - writing! She is a sports enthusiast, who graduated from the College of Saint Benedict (St. Joseph, MN) in May of 2013 with a bachelor of arts in Communication and played on the Women's Basketball Team for four years. In her free-time Hannah enjoys traveling - she lived in Athens, Greece and Rome, Italy for six months and continues her love for travel through her career. You can contact her at hannah.hylla@gmail.com or on Facebook, Twitter, or LinkedIn.

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