3 Things I Learned By Living With a Roommate
Even though we didn’t get along once in a while, I am still on good terms with all of my previous roommates. Remembering my relationships with them led me to think more about myself, and I realized how much I have grown since I first came to the University of Notre Dame three years ago.
There are so many classes, events, and people who played a role in shaping who I am, but I honestly believe that living with my different roommates taught me the most valuable life lessons.
While I’m sure everyone has different takeaways from living with a roommate, these are the three most important things that I have learned:
- If you have a problem with something, don’t hesitate to bring it up. I know too many people (myself included) who got into fights with their roommates because no one vocalized when something bothered them. Keeping in that anger only made things worse, especially if your roommate didn’t even know why you were upset. This has helped me both in work and in my personal life; the longer you leave an issue unresolved, the worse the outcome is likely to be. It’s still difficult to bring up problems I may have, but I am much more comfortable doing so than I used to be.
- You can’t force friendship. One of my roommates and I tried to hang out together on the weekends, but it never quite seemed to work. We saw us living together as a reason to have the same friends and do the same things, but one of us always felt a little out of place. We started spending more time apart with our respective friend groups, and both felt happier. While we weren’t close friends, we were still friendly toward each other. Being friendly was the best thing that happened to our relationship because we appreciated each other more since we weren’t seeing each other every second of every day. If you don’t click with someone, that isn’t an excuse to cut them out of your life; you should still be civil and friendly toward each other.
- Take time for yourself. This is probably the most important thing that I learned while sharing a room. It’s really challenging to find time alone when all of your friends live in the same building as you, so you have to work to make time for you. It will be easier for me to be alone since I have my own room now, but I have also found that time to myself is just as important in my work. Working over the summer or while doing homework, I try to work for fifty minutes straight and then take a ten-minute break. This ensures that my work gets done, but I don’t go crazy trying to do everything at once.