5 Life Lessons from ABC’s “The Bachelorette”

Posted August 6, 2013 by Marcy Twete in On the Ladder

Whether you love reality television or hate it, you’ve no doubt heard about or watched portions of “The Bachelorette” on ABC. This season was especially interesting and has graced the cover of every tabloid as this season’s “Bachelorette,” Desiree falls in love, has her heart broken, and falls in love again. But today, it’s not the drama of Desiree’s season we’re talking about here on Career Girl Network. Instead, it’s the life lessons we can learn from Des’ season, and from all of the seasons of this show.

Here they are – 5 life lessons you can learn from “The Bachelorette.”

  1. Those who do not learn from their history are bound to repeat it. Desiree started her journey on “The Bachelorette” telling us she’s always been loving, but never loved back. So who does she immediately gravitate to? The guy who can’t communicate his feelings. And guess what? He broke her heart and made her cry. If you’re always attracted to bad boys, and they always break your heart, here’s a hint, girl….stop going out with bad boys! The “nice guy” might seem boring, but let me tell you, boring and reliable loves you a whole lot more than unpredictable and sexy.
  2. The truth is, it’s not about where you are, it’s about where you’re going. On last night’s finale, Chris presented Des with a journal inscribed with this quote. It’s true of every situation in life, not just this one. You may not like your job today, you may not like your house or your hair or your financial situation. But every step of your life and your career is a journey, one that isn’t about where you stand today, but about where you’re moving to in the future. Look to the horizon and you’ll be able to see the next step.
  3. Value experiences. Neither the “Bachelor” and “Bachelorette” franchises value time when building relationships — the engaged couples at the end of the show have known each other all of six weeks. What the shows do value are experiences, which is why I still watch them. Is it possible that two people learn more about one another on one exhilarating bungee jump or bridge climb than they do in five or six boring dinner dates? Could be. The same applies to all experiences in life and in career. Place more value on important experiences in your career than on tenure in a job. Place more value on phenomenal opportunity rather than the day-to-day activities in your job.
  4. Take a step back sometimes. In Desiree’s season, she seemed blindsided by the fact that the man she was in love with, Brooks, left her standing alone in Antigua. But the truth is, there were continuous signs that Brooks wasn’t as in love with her as she was with him. In a situation like “The Bachelorette,” you’re isolated and unable to step away. But in real life, when you’re certain of something – anything – before you make a decision or become too dependent on one position, person, or description, step back. Take a breath, a few days even, and ask yourself what you really want. It could save you heartache later.
  5. Always, always, always wear waterproof mascara. When Desiree was crying, sobbing, sniffling on the beach….at least her makeup looked great! Seriously, though, it’s a strong lesson for anyone. You can’t always control the way you feel on the inside, but you can control the way you look on the outside. At least you’ll have that, right?

What have you learned from “The Bachelorette” and other shows like it? Can we take lessons in our lives from television that’s meant to be entertainment only? Sure!

About the Author

Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is a career fundraiser turned corporate responsibility executive, a career and networking expert and the author of the book "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works."