It’s been highlight requested that I write a post about how I met my husband – and more broadly, how to meet a guy on Twitter. So here goes it…
Now I don’t know if meeting someone on Twitter is a logical thing. It just sort of happened for us. But I suppose as social media becomes more prevalent and we see more into the lives of those we don’t know, it will become easier and easier to become attracted to someone you’ve actually never met. That was exactly the case for Twitter Guy and me.
- Find someone who strikes your fancy. Do his posts make you laugh? Do you find yourself looking for his Tweets more than others? Are you thinking to yourself, “I could really chat with this guy in person.” If so, he’s probably someone you should think about starting a Twit-mance with.
- Start talking. If you don’t start the conversation, it’ll never lead to something more. If he posts he’s at a restaurant you’d like to try, write back, “How was it? I heard their bouillabaisse is phenomenal.” It’ll start the conversation on something you’d both enjoy.
- Make sure he’s talking. If you comment a few times and receive no comment back, the same rules apply as in all dating situations. He’s just not that into you.
- Keep talking. You’ve got to keep the conversation going. Out of site, out of mind. Comment once for every comment he gives you, and little more. You don’t want to appear desperate or overly interested in someone you’ve never met. You might come off as a psycho (also, don’t blog about how much you like him after your first date or he’ll go running – but he might come back, you never know. That’s a whole different blog post.)
- Start flirting. The first big flirt for Twitter Guy and I occurred when he posted he wanted to go on this awesome 117 day cruise around the world. I posted back that I’d definitely join him on that cruise, and added, “but maybe we should actually meet each other before we make world travel plans.” Bantering begins.
- Keep flirting. For weeks, then, Twitter Guy and I bantered. We bantered about alcohol and restaurants, cooking and work, bosses and parents. It was fun.
- Take action. When the bantering got to the point where it was clear there was interest on both ends, we made plans. I mentioned casually that I’d join him at a concert if he ever needed a partner, and he direct messaged to tell me to pick a show. We did, and the rest is history (well, there was me standing him up for lawn furniture, him pursuing me again, and going out weeks later. But hey, that’s another blog post.)
About the Author: Marcy Twete
Marcy Twete is the Founder and CEO of Career Girl Network and the author of the book “You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works.” At Career Girl Network, Marcy provides women with information, resources, and networking to empower them in their careers and to advance the work of women in business as a whole. Prior to launching Career Girl Network, Marcy worked in numerous nonprofit organizations and as a consultant in the field of nonprofit fundraising, marketing, and community relations. Marcy is a graduate of the College of St. Benedict in St. Joseph, Minnesota, and a native of rural North Dakota. She is the Vice Chair of the Chicago Board of Directors for Step Up Women’s Network in Chicago and a member of the Advisory Board for Girls on the Run Twin Cities, and is dedicated to advancing the work of organizations that move the needle for women and girls worldwide.
I'm so happy for you guys! We meet people ANYWHERE and EVERYWHERE we go, but sometimes you'll get people who will say, "You met where?" or "Why on the internet? Is that safe?". From personal experience, dating online, I had those same questions asked by certain people, and it drove me insane! As long as the person treats you with the utmost respect and who you can get along with, who cares where you meet at, you know! Best of luck to you two, glad to see you happy.