Mitt Romney gave an interview to Fox News Sunday last week. In it, he was asked about his feelings following the election. How does Mitt feel today about his loss. He said, “It kills me not to be there,” referring to the White House and Washington, DC and ultimately to the seat of the President. Whether you’re a Republican or Democrat, or somewhere in between, we can all understand that notion. Go back to high school when you lost the big game or didn’t get into the school you wanted to go to. Fast forward to losing a job you thought you had because the “other guy” was just a little bit more experienced than you were. Somewhere in those kinds of experiences, you have most certainly thought to yourself, “it just kills me.”
When I moved to Chicago almost three years ago, I interviewed for a job you might call the “dream job.” I would have been working for one of my favorite retail brands in community relations, and it seemed like nothing would stand in my way. Of course, you know by now that I didn’t get the job. I was up against a woman senior to me by more than 10 years. It made sense. I couldn’t fault them for the decision. But still, even now, when I walk into that retailer’s store, I think, “It kills me not to have been there.” We’ve all had that feeling. Even if we like where we are, even if we’ve found a better path, it still hurts. So in that sense, I feel for Mitt Romney and for all of you who’ve had that experience.
How, though, can you get past that “it kills me” feeling and make something positive out of a loss of an opportunity?
- Volunteer! It may sound corny, but it’s true. If you want to do a job or join a company badly enough that it “kills you” not to be doing it, find a way to make it happen as a volunteer. If you interviewed for a job with a PR agency and became incredibly excited about their partnership with the Red Cross, pull that piece out of the process and find ways to give back to the Red Cross individually without the company who turned you down.
- Better luck next time. This may not necessarily apply in the case of Mitt Romney, but it does for most individuals. Not being hired for a specific job doesn’t mean the company didn’t like you or want to hire you. Perhaps they only have one spot available right now. Look for additional opportunities at the company, ask for connections to another department, and build your networking within the organization. You might find you have better luck the second time around.
- Visualize something better. The best revenge is doing well, someone once said. So go out and DO WELL! Get another job that’s bigger and better, grab another opportunity that makes you happier. Instead of dwelling in what you don’t have, dwell in possibility and you will be able to bounce back much more quickly than those who wallow.
So whether it’s a job opportunity or an election, it’s alright to feel the “it kills me” feeling. We’ve all been there. Chin up, chest out, and moving on to bigger and better things!