Mom, Dad, and Your Interview
I flipped the first time I learned of the new interviewing tactic some twenty-somethings were employing in their job search:
Mom, or Dad, or both were accompanying them on their job interviews.
HUH?? My first thought jumped to the applicant – Have you no pride? Who brings their parents with them on a JOB INTERVIEW?
Then I moved to the variety of faux pas a parent might make in front of a prospective employer, My Kathi Ann is so talented! You’d be lucky to have her, but she can be a real chatter box!
Simply put — the thought NEVER occurred to me, however in the words of Bob Dylan,
The times they are a changing….
Lots of chatter, debate, and argument currently circulates around this issue, and recently the Wall Street Journal published “Should You Bring Your Parents to Your Office”, which discusses the positive aspects of parents involvement in their kids’ careers. Top firms like Northwestern Mutual, Google, and LinkedIn have all embraced different aspects of ‘parent-friendly practices.’
For instance, WSJ quoted Michael Van Grinsven of Northwestern Mutual as saying,
It’s become best practice . . . noting that parents can influence their children’s career decisions. Some Northwestern Mutual managers call or send notes to parents when interns achieve their sales goals and let parents come along to interviews and hear details of job offers. They may even visit parents at home.
On the flip side Forbes countered the WSJ article with their own, which cautioned employers to tread lightly with involving parents in the employment process citing both (perceived) discriminatory practices and privacy risks, each very valid issues.
I can easily argue either side of the case. Watch!
- Why not include family members? It is not an uncommon practice to invite a candidate and their spouse (or significant other) to dinner during the interview process, so what about Mom and Dad?
- What employer doesn’t want to improve sales stats from their new recruits? According to the WSJ article,
Northwestern Mutual’s benchmark for success in sales has risen more than 40% since 2007, a productivity improvement that he [Van Grinsven] attributes in part to more parental support.
- Who doesn’t want happier, more engaged employees? Both Google and LinkedIn claim the All in the Family approach makes for better morale, which leads to more productive workers.
- At what age does a person take responsibility for her own decisions? 20, 25, 30? Some interviewers might question a candidate’s decison-making ability and maturity level. Will Mom and Dad want to sit in on your performance review, too?
- Ever heard of the generation gap? More ‘seasoned’ hiring managers will be far less open to entertain this new trend because they were raised with different values. (Remember, many grew-up in the the latch-key generation, so independence was expected.)
- Parents say the darnest things sometimes! Even the most discreet parent can lapse into chatting about an embarrassing childhood story, or scolding you in front of the interviewer.
Career Girl Network wants to know where you stand on the debate! Do parents and job interviews mix?