Olivia Munn Only Dates Successful Men

Posted July 25, 2012 by Marcy Twete in Life After Five

Every now and then, a woman says something so honest and authentic, it stings a little. This was exactly the case when a reporter recently asked actress Olivia Munn about her love life and taste in men. She pretty controversially said, “The key is to have a guy that has more success than you because… guys have a bigger ego and it’s harder for them to be around a girl that’s doing better.”

And like any good Sex and the City fan, when I thought about successful men, the picture above came to mind – Big….Aiden….Big….Aiden…..it’s a toss-up, right? But let’s not be too one-story focused. Take all of the women in Sex and the City:

  • Miranda’s entire marriage story-line is about her being more successful than Steve. Remember the episode where she bought him a suit and he felt emasculated to the point that he didn’t go to her party? Maybe Olivia Munn is right.
  • Then take Charlotte into consideration. She dumped the handyman actor and the folk artist in trade for a cardiologist and then a high-powered attorney.
  • Samantha has a string of successful and ego-driven men. There’s Richard, the hotel mogul. And then there’s Smith, the unsuccessful guy she turned into the breadwinner.
  • And we all know Carrie traded the furniture designer for the finance and real estate mogul.

Is Olivia Munn right? Should we date men who are more successful than we are? Or is this just another antiquated notion by a mid-level Hollywood player? Is she right? Is the Sex and the City stereotype right?  Weigh in. Inquiring minds want to know.

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Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is a career fundraiser turned corporate responsibility executive, a career and networking expert and the author of the book "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works."


    Judy Morris

    I really don’t know. It depends on both individuals, and the friends they share, I think. Also “successful” doesn’t really mean the same thing as “makes the most money”. My ex-husband insisted upside-down and crossways that he wanted a strong successful woman. The first years of our marriage I made about 50% more than he did. That wasn’t a measure of success though – I was not especially successful, in a higher paying field. He was very successful, but in a much lower paying field. While we were working through our early-marriage issues of power and money – when I made 50% more than he did – I insisted that the amount of money we are able to make in our chosen fields is not the measure of our contribution to the household. Later, when I was a stay-at-home mother (which we both agreed to), and he decided he wanted a divorce, he had the nerve to claim (now that he was making 90% of the family’s income) that I was not bringing any money into the household and not “pulling my weight”. When I made 50% more than he did, he insisted that money was irrelevant, but now suddenly it was very relevant.

    So to sum it up, for myself money is not the issue, as long as it is not uncomfortably low. But I would want to be involved with someone successful in his field. And I think I would be more comfortable with someone more successful in his field than I am in mine. Maybe I am somewhat stuck in old stereotypes? I don’t know. I’m just talking about personal comfort level, not “should”s and “should not”s.

    Kelly Coughlan

    I think it depends on how you define “success”. I consider it to be working in a job that you enjoy and aligns with your values (this includes being a stay at home mom!). If either partner is not satisfied in their work, that is when the real problems start. Gender shouldn’t really factor into it.

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