Not All Opportunities Are Created Equally
Ok Career Girl, I want to ask you a question. Do you want good or great?
I want you take a moment and really think about this because by doing so you’ll discover your level of self worth.
You see, most people will blurt out “I want great Abby” but in reality they accept crappy opportunities, and go against their better intuition, regardless of all of the red flags before them.
How do I know this, you ask?
It’s simple, because I’ve been there. No matter how self assured and shiny I appeared to be on the outside the truth of the matter is I attracted some “funky”, unfulfilling, job opportunities my way that just did not match the shiny, confident, exterior. Seriously!
And wanna know why? Something was misaligned. A short circuit of some sort happened and I had an honest conversation with myself and figured it out.
You see, you can’t hide from your circumstances Career Girl; it’s a window into your “unconscious” beliefs about yourself.
To some of you reading this, please know that I’m not in any way suggesting that we beat ourselves up or be too hard on ourselves for the decisions that we make. We ALL make mistakes.
Been there, done that!
No, that’s not what I mean. What I’m talking about here is “knowing thyself” and facing your truth because that’s where your power lies. And, when you’re “uber” clear about who you “really are”, what you’re worth, and what you have to offer, you will honour yourself first and foremost and make better decisions overall.
How does this apply to your Career?
My response: it has everything to do with it. If you do not know who you are, what’s important to you, or what you have to offer, then how can you make a sound career decision?
Take a moment and think about it.
Here’s 3 tips to identify your internal boundaries which can serve as a guide while career shopping:
- Career TIP - Identify your core values. When you are clear on your values in life it makes decision-making in your career of choice a whole lot easier. Your core values stem from your truth; the “real you”. For example, if spending time with your family is “uber” important to you, then it wouldn’t make sense to accept a position that will interfere with family time. Now don’t get me wrong, there are certain times in life that we have to make sacrifices, however I’ve found the more we deviate from the things that are important to us, the more we feel it stripped of our power and ultimately this leads to a lack of fulfillment.
- Career TIP - Identify your internal non non-negotiables. Your non-negotiables are intrinsically linked to your core values. They are the things you deem sacred and are un-willing to compromise on. For example, if it is important for you to find a job that is closer to your child’s daycare, then it may not make sense to accept a position in Timbuktu no matter how much it pays.
- Career TIP - Make heart-based career decisions. In other words, choose a career that you’re passionate about as it will fuel your desire to succeed. As a veteran in the Executive Search business, I’ve observed so many wonderful candidates focus solely on marketing their skills rather than their talents. And a great career is when passion and skill work together synergistically.
Always remember whenever you compromise your internal non-negotiables in a career decision you give your power away by not honouring yourself.
Use them as a guide, and I guarantee you will feel empowered and in the driver’s seat of your life.