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She’s A Natural!

Posted December 9, 2013 by Monica O'Connell in On the Ladder
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I attended a talk by Tom Rath recently who is behind the “Strengths Finder” and just recently put out a book called “Eat Move Sleep: How Small Choices Lead To Big Changes.”  Most of his presentation was about previous work and research he has done, which is what I want to spend most of my time talking about.  However, his book is interesting.  He talks about the importance of small changes consistently really changing the way you live your life and your health. His website is interesting as well. If you check it out, let me know what you think.

His other work has been related to leadership and workplace success. You Career Girls may be far more familiar than I though I have to say, I’m a fan. One of the biggest standouts was the story he told about report cards.  He said, “Your kid comes home with a report card that looks like this:





Where do you spend the most time?

He said mostly people say the F. It needs the most attention.Clearly they’re failing at something and need to spend more focus there, get more attention in that area and/or maybe even more tutoring.

And he said that’s the wrong place to spend your time. He said the A and B are far more likely to indicate where the child’s natural talents are found and if you’re willing to spend time investing in their innate talents, you set them up for more success. He said people who stand out in specific areas tend to continue to do so throughout the majority of their lives.

True for you?

It really does seem true when I look at people I’ve known from childhood to adulthood.

My cousin (whom I attended the lecture with, actually) is a dear friend and for the majority of our childhood was, shall we say, a leader of the pack. Read: bossy.

She still is. Man, you know how she wants something done. And it totally works for her. She’s currently pursuing a PhD in leadership and is a fantastic sports coach.  Successful leaders and coaches have particular mindsets and they’re also bossy (in their own ways). She’s wildly smart, comes up with brilliant ideas and easily sees people’s strengths and then helps people play those strengths. She’s really motivational and her energy level is unparalleled.  This was also true in our childhood.

Can you think of your natural skills? Any of them still consistent for you from childhood to current? Are you utilizing them?

About the Author

Monica O'Connell

Monica O’Connell is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist in Minneapolis, Minnesota. In her practice, she spends her career cheering on “Career Girls” as they learn how to get the most out of life. Monica works with arguably some of the most successful, intelligent, inspiring women in the Twin Cities who tackle self-discovery, career success, and what’s getting in the way of their true desires. She shares her favorite moments as those “best described not by words but by the stomach aching, face soreness that comes from spending an entire day laughing with loved ones.”