Put Me In, Coach

Posted November 9, 2011 by Marcy Twete in On the Ladder
No, not Coach purses. Not the football coach. What kind of coach might I be talking about? The kind not many people take advantage of. The professional coach.

The highest level executives have been utilizing the services of executive coaches for decades. Speech coaches, management coaches, personal habit coaches. They’re all there. And over the last few years, it’s become increasingly popular for the average Joe (or Jane) to have a personal/professional coach as well. Often known as “life coaches”, you can find a coach for any area of your life. Personal relationships, professional traits, goal setting, and more, there are numerous reasons to look for a coach. For me, now is the time for a leadership coach.

After spending four uncertain months in a job, I learned the ropes enough to realize I needed some outside influence in my career. Was I in the right place? Was I going in the right direction? And, at least internally in my own mind, I was certain enough of my weaknesses and struggles that I knew I was ready to work on them consciously and strategically. So I chose a coach and set my intention – to discover the next steps in my career and find out exactly what I need to do to get there.

Why am I sharing this with you? Because we are often taught, as women, to fend for ourselves. We are expected to learn on the go, as fast as possible, and take little time for self-reflection. Conversely, we are also expected to practice “self-care” in the traditionally female ways of spa days and manicures. That just doesn’t work for me. Taking care of myself, for me, means working on me. For me. That’s what coaching will do for me.

Furthermore, I share my coaching experience with all of you because I believe some of my issues are universal. The dreaded work/life balance (or integration, depending on how progressive you are) has become a monster in my life. I’m great at working 80 hours a week when I’m in a miserable marriage and hate my life. Turns out, I’m not so great at it when I actually want to spend time with a loving husband and enjoy my beautiful home and city. Definitely going to be talking to my coach about that one.

The moral of the story is this. If you are in a tough spot, reach out. Even if you’re in a great spot, but realize you want life to be even greater (that’s me right now), reach out. Find the people in your life, paid or unpaid, who can help you achieve the next level of success and harness their energy and driving momentum to go out and do it. And don’t be ashamed that you might need some coaching to get there. I’m not.

About the Author

Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is a career fundraiser turned corporate responsibility executive, a career and networking expert and the author of the book "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works."