Sometimes we say “Yes” to things we shouldn’t, and sometimes we so “No” to the experiences we fear won’t work out. Imagine what would happen if we reversed that? What if we said “Yes” to the things we were unsure of — to the things we feared most?
I began thinking about this idea when Little Pink Book wrote about Kajiya Wynn Berry, founder of WindWishes. Berry launched the YES! Campaign, which encourages people to creatively share the “Yes” moments in their lives — and what happened as a result. I asked myself where the “Yes” moments were in my life: I said yes to my first broadcast news job, I said yes to leaving broadcast news for graduate school, I said yes to working at Career Girl Network. Was I afraid to take all of these steps? Absolutely. Do I regret making these decisions? Absolutely not.
In our career, and in the rest of our lives, we fear what we don’t know: we fear the uncertainty that comes with risk-taking. In her video on marieforleo.com, Forleo explains that in many ways, we fear success. We have to get our subconscious aligned with what we want. She says:
It doesn’t matter how much you say you want success, if you believe somewhere deep inside that success equals some kind of pain (loss of freedom, loss of time with your family, loss of love, rejection, embarrassment, vulnerability or shame) you will NOT let yourself do what it takes to succeed.
I didn’t know if I was doing the right thing when I decided to return to graduate school for writing. I feared that maybe I’d never find a job again, or that I’d waste two years and end up realizing that broadcast news was all I knew how to do. None of these things turned out to be true. Instead, I have a graduate degree that helped me grow and realize who I was. I have the first job I’ve ever truly loved. What ultimately brings an idea or dream to fruition is simply letting yourself say “Yes.”
Ask yourself — are you saying “Yes” to the right opportunities, or are you holding back out of fear? Read the full article on Little Pink Book here, then watch Marie Forleo’s video and follow the steps — you might be surprised by what you learn about yourself and your subconscious.