Sick of Being Late All The Time? Take This Advice

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Posted February 20, 2013 by Marcy Twete in Life After Five
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I often tell people I am “annoyingly and perpetually early.” And while that annoyance may not be as annoying as those who are perpetually late, what I know from my own experience being early is that it’s something that is very difficult to change. If you are perpetually early or perpetually late, that tendency runs deep and is incredibly difficult to change. If you’ve ever been annoyed with a late person, what you probably don’t know is that person constantly beats themselves up about being late. The truth is, people who are perpetually late have no intent to make you angry or disrespect your time.

If you’re one of the many people in the world who is perpetually late, the advice below from Dr. Phil is some of the best, most frank, and realistic advice for breaking the habit I’ve ever seen. I hope it will help some of you in some way.

What is your payoff?
Ask yourself why you are late and/or why you put things off. What is your payoff for the behavior? You wouldn’t continue unless you were getting some reward for it. Be encouraged that this behavior can change overnight. Know that you are being tardy or procrastinating because you can, and there is some sort of payoff.

Examine your mental process.
If you know that it takes 45 minutes to get ready and arrive at a destination, ask yourself why you would spend 30 minutes doing something else and then try to get ready and get to your destination in 15 minutes. How do you justify the behavior? You’re not late at 11:00. If you have to be somewhere at 11:00 and it takes 30 minutes to get there, you’re late at 10:30 if you’re still at home.

Get real about your tardiness.
If you are always late, yet you tell yourself and others that you try to be on time, get real. You can’t always be late unless you work at it. You would be on time just by accident occasionally!

Stop using your behavior to control situations.
Understand that procrastination or being late is a way of manipulating and controlling a situation at the expense of others. When everything is about you because everyone has to wait on you, you are unfairly controlling the situation while assuming that others should and will wait on you. It’s an arrogant behavior.

Make priorities.
When running late, don’t think that you’re so important to what you are doing that you can’t move on to the next thing. If talking to your neighbor is making you late for work, realize they aren’t going to curl up and die if you say, “Excuse me, I have to go to work.”

Add negative consequences to your behavior.
When there aren’t enough negative consequences to the behavior, you continue it. To change this behavior, cost yourself something of value every time you are late and/or procrastinate. This will discourage you from continuing the behavior. The penalty needs to be something that is disturbing to you. For example, if taking a daily shower is very important to you, you can decide that you won’t allow yourself to take one when you are late and/or procrastinate. Or, don’t allow yourself to brush your hair or put on makeup the next time you go to work if you’re not on time.


About the Author

Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is the author of "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works" and a career expert who believes in order to be empowered in your career, you must be surrounded with resources and a network that both supports and challenges you. Marcy began her own networking journey as a professional fundraiser in the nonprofit industry, honed those skills as a fundraising consultant, and in 2012 networked her way to nearly 1 million readers as the CEO of the professional development website Career Girl Network.

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