Speak With Certainty

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Posted March 23, 2010 by Marcy Twete in Networking Buzz

I spent most of last week and the weekend at an exciting and fun training session with other nonprofit and arts marketing organizations. It was fabulous. But when you spend four days straight talking to the same people, you begin to notice some trends. I’d like to tell you about one.

There was a woman in the group who began every sentence with “I don’t know, but…” or “Maybe this isn’t right, but…” She never made an assertive statement. She never said, “I think…this.” She started every statement with an apology just in case she wasn’t correct.

I think there are a lot of women out there who do this frequently. They are so afraid they’ll say something wrong, they actually negate themselves by apologizing for their possible inaccuracy before they speak. And unfortunately, it makes you sound less credible and certainly not confident.

So my advice is this – even if you’re not sure, say it like you are. Someone may correct you. Someone may tell you you’re wrong. But trust your skills. If you feel strongly enough to say it, feel strongly enough to say it without first saying, “I don’t know.”


About the Author

Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is a career fundraiser turned corporate responsibility executive, a career and networking expert and the author of the book "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works."

2 Comments


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    twenty eight

    I have noticed other women doing that a lot, too – and I'm definitely guilty of it as well. Or it goes the opposite way and some women feel they need to be overly assertive or aggressive and it comes off in a whole other kind of wrong way. The key is confidence, as well knowing that wrong doesn't equal dumb, it just means being human.




  2.  
    Katsui Jewelry

    Hooray MCG! Greetings from Arizona!
    Sue





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