What Will You Value This Holiday Season?

Posted November 25, 2013 by Monica O'Connell in Life After Five

The holiday season is barely upon us.  

I haven’t kept track, but it really seems as if it starts earlier and earlier (I know, I sound like I’m ancient and tracking the weather and holiday season). I’m someone who enjoys a good Christmas tree and holiday lights from November to March and it occurred to me that once the stores start, we start. We’re so connected to the hustle and bustle. When it starts to flurry, we flurry away.

 What if we got grounded in our values this holiday season?

What if we used our values and goals to help us make decisions this holiday season? Often times the holiday season brings us back into the crisis situations we’ve been trying to avoid.  That family drama that only comes around during the holidays. The mass chaos that occurs when our budget doesn’t quite match with the gifts we would like to give.

We don’t need to solve any of our problems during the holidays. That family stuff? That will be there whether or not you’re participating in the drama of it. You will be ok whether you buy people the presents they want or the ones that fit within your budget. The way you create more okayness is by knowing and standing in your values.

  • If family is a value of yours, it’s easy to set aside the hustle and the chaos to create opportunities for you to treasure your family. A family gathering, movie night or game night is either free/inexpensive and is usually a good time.
  • If community is a value of yours, finding ways to connect in your community will help slow you down greatly. I’ve seen numerous yoga classes and meditation classes gearing up to ground you through the holidays. This also a huge time of need in the midwest because the seasons change and our homeless and less privileged families are in desperate need of warm clothing and warm food.

Finding ways to get out of your own hustle of the holidays will help you enjoy the season more.

What are the values you’ll use to make the most out of this holiday season?

About the Author

Monica O'Connell

Monica O’Connell is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist in Minneapolis, Minnesota. In her practice, she spends her career cheering on “Career Girls” as they learn how to get the most out of life. Monica works with arguably some of the most successful, intelligent, inspiring women in the Twin Cities who tackle self-discovery, career success, and what’s getting in the way of their true desires. She shares her favorite moments as those “best described not by words but by the stomach aching, face soreness that comes from spending an entire day laughing with loved ones.”