Step Up: Share Your Gifts

Posted October 30, 2013 by Rebecca Niziol in Career Moves
I recently had a session with a fabulous young woman, Jana. She’s smart, talented, and completely committed to helping and supporting other people in finding their purpose in life. She is so passionate about this in fact, that she’s made some major changes to make it possible.

Jana recently quit her job, gave up her steady paycheck, relocated, and is already well on her way to doing the work she is so passionate about. She has really amazing training (invested thousands of dollars into it) and kicks booty at what she does (I got to experience this first hand). I’m totally into her vision and ideas. The girl has got heart, and has so much going for her. But there’s one major thing holding Jana back right now.

She is terribly afraid of failing.

She is so afraid of things not working out, that she has now halted all efforts toward building a career in helping others connect to their purpose – the exact thing she feels destined to do!

I explained to Jana that until this major block was transformed, she would continue to feel unmotivated and frustrated no matter how many people she helped. This fear is causing her so much stress that she has chosen inaction. She knows what to do, and is very capable of doing it, but this BIG FAT fear has gotten her off course. By “off course” I mean sitting on her couch wishing she had the courage to live the life she wants, but not doing anything to make it real.

Has this happened to you?

When your fear is bigger than your desire to create your dream life, you hit up against some pretty intense inner conflict. As my friend Karie Hill says, you begin “the dance between fear and desire.” And that damn dance can go on for a lot longer than we want.

Jana was tired of doing the dance, and is ready to live out her purpose and passions… but she didn’t know how to do it on her own. She didn’t believe enough in herself to take the first step. But, she was so ready and open to support, that all I had to do was show her the way and she completely ignited! I told her:

You are not owning your gifts. By not taking action right now, you are denying the world your amazing gifts, and denying yourself the fulfillment that comes from sharing them.

She burst into tears. Not because she was hurt, or sad, but because she knew it was true. I only told her what she already knew deep down, but was too ashamed to admit out loud. Even over the phone I could feel the sense of relief wash over Jana as she gained the clarity around what was causing her struggle.

Now Jana is partnering with me on a journey towards the peace of mind, clarity, and confidence that comes from transforming a big fear into the motivation she needed to make her dreams come true. As soon as she shifted from denying her gifts to owning them, the whole story changed.

Owning your gifts is a practice in self-love. It is energizing and powerful.

Self-love isn’t just about treating yourself to manicures and bubble baths, it is about deeply accepting yourself. It is about embracing your path, loving your successes and your failures. It is about looking into your own eyes and seeing the beautiful creature within. It is about blasting away the fear blocking you from shining so brightly that you spread your greatness to everyone you meet.

Self-love isn’t a woo-woo, fluffy, self help term that Oprah created. Self-love is the ongoing act of honoring yourself, knowing your value, and staying true to who you are.

How are you going to own your gifts today? How are you going to practice self-love?

Accept compliments graciously. Be proud of the talent you have, and the hard work you’ve put in. Give up the need for perfection.  Let go of the desire for others approval. Treat yourself as you would a tiny baby, with tender love and care. Stand up for yourself and ask the universe for what you desire. Offer your gifts to the world, and then be ready to receive more joy and fulfillment than you ever imagined possible.

About the Author

Rebecca Niziol

Rebecca Niziol, ELI-MP, is many things: a life coach, yoga teacher, dancer, event planner, connection catalyst, and your new best friend. Her mission is to empower others to live the authentic life of their dreams. After years of traveling North America and Europe, she is happy to have found a home and community in Chicago.