The Name Change Decision
When I married in 2006, my ex-husband was adamant I change my name. I kowtowed to his traditionalism and agreed. In 2008 when we divorced, the lovely IT Director in my workplace changed my name on my email and phone for me before I even saw a divorce attorney. And that same day, I swore I would never again change my name. So here I am, a happily married lady (quote from Sex and the City, “It’s all so great 7 days in!”) with a permanently different name from my husband and completely happy with my choice.
The choice is one every woman has to make individually. For me, I was attached heavily to the legacy of my father, who has always stood behind me through hell and high water. Furthermore, I believe my career is built on my name. Changing my name at this stage in my career just seemed like a change in course I wasn’t ready to accept. I love my last name. It’s unique, no one else has it, and I feel good when I say it. And for me, that’s all that mattered. And luckily I’ve found a man who doesn’t mind introducing his wife by a different last name.
I’ve had it both ways, and this one feels more authentic and more like me. So that’s the key to success with this decision. Think carefully about what feels authentic for you, and only that authenticity will point you in the right direction to make the right decision.