The “Shine” Theory: Surround Yourself with Power
There’s a New York Magazine article that’s been making the social media rounds for the past few days. In it, writer Ann Friedman analyzes the jealousy of former member of Destiny’s Child Kelly Rowland. After all, wouldn’t any member of a powerful trio be jealous if one member of that trio went on to incredible success? Ann says:
Few women are unlucky enough to have their successes measured against Beyoncé’s.
But Friedman also points out that Kelly Rowland’s success is nothing to downplay! Rowland has achieved critical acclaim for her music, fashion, and is joining the cast of The X Factor. But still, she admits to being jealous of her former Destiny’s Child sister’s career and success. And we can all relate! We’ve all had friends who seem to work just as hard as we do, who aren’t any smarter or more talented than we are, but somehow make more money and have bigger and better titles. And it’s natural for us to be somewhat jealous. This is not a new concept. However, Ann Friedman’s challenge to women is revolutionary:
Here’s my solution: When you meet a woman who is intimidatingly witty, stylish, beautiful, and professionally accomplished, befriend her. Surrounding yourself with the best people doesn’t make you look worse by comparison. It makes you better.