The Surprise I Met in a Room of Incredibly Successful Women

Posted March 11, 2013 by Marcy Twete in Life After Five

On Saturday, I was blessed and honored to be one of 75 professional women mentoring an incredible group of teen girls at Step Up Women’s Network’s Career Connections Conference. Arriving on Saturday morning, I looked around to see women CEO’s, advertising executives, pharmaceutical sales representatives, bankers, attorneys, teachers, nonprofit executives, and representatives from many other industries and walks of life. Our stories converged as we all came together to mentor young women who aspire to be successful in high school, college, and beyond in their careers.

After a day-long mentoring experience moving through panel discussions, incredible speakers, mock interviews, and getting to know our mentees, this phenomenal group of women and girls came back together in the same room we began to end the day with a visioning session with Tiara Coaching’s Melissa Thornley. In the exercise Melissa led, she asked us to close our eyes and led us through a powerful visioning process, asking us to find our best selves. After minutes of visioning and powerful imagery from Melissa, she asked us to open our eyes and guided us through a poetry writing exercise. The first line of the poem was “I am _____” with the blank word being a description of the feeling you felt while in the visioning exercise.

I was shocked, first by my own word, and then by the words of the women around me. One by one, these incredibly successful and powerful women shared their words. I assumed I would hear things like, “CEO” or “Powerful” or “Confident.” I was wrong. Instead, I heard the same words repeated many many times, some version of these:

  • Relaxed
  • Happy
  • Free
  • Stress-free
  • On vacation

Something occurred to me in the moment, and it’s a point I’ve been harping on for some time here at Career Girl (and magically, still failing to take my own advice): Women are waaaaaaay tooooo stressed out! It extends from 20-something women doing everything they can to get ahead to our own former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton saying her dream was to be “un-tired.”

Here we were on a Saturday afternoon, volunteering our time to help young women achieve their dreams, and our biggest dream is to be relaxed and free. Can we ever achieve that dream? Of course we can! I hope all of the women in that room walked away feeling more connected with their dreams of relaxation and more willing to fight for those dreams.

To help get the rest of you moving, I’d like to share with you my own vision from Saturday. In my vision, I was in a bathing suit, I was tan, I was standing on a dock untying a boat and getting ready to spend the day on the water. I was laughing and smiling. I wasn’t wearing makeup or worrying about how I looked. I was happy, relaxed, and content. Because I had this vision and felt so incredible in it, I’m determined to make it more of a part of my life.

Today, I challenge you all, find that vision of happiness and relaxation in your own life, and begin (even if it’s in a tiny way) to make it happen!

About the Author

Marcy Twete

Marcy Twete is a career fundraiser turned corporate responsibility executive, a career and networking expert and the author of the book "You Know Everybody! A Career Girl’s Guide to Building a Network That Works."