Top 4 Ways to Boost Your Relationship in the New Year.

Posted January 2, 2013 by Monica O'Connell in Life After Five

The New Year signifies lots of “New You” opportunities and those new healthy changes you’re choosing probably impact your relationship. Here are some ways to incorporate positive changes into your relationship in 2013 — these should align with the awesome things you’re already geared up to tackle this year.

  • Share and support each other’s resolutions: Start talking about what you’d like to change individually. Perhaps you have a New Year’s resolution to find gratitude daily. Does your partner know about it? How can they support you? What is your partner’s resolution? Ask! Get involved in helping each other change for the better.
  • Date night: Spending quality time with your loved one is one of the best ways to increase your connection. This can always be budget friendly. Some of my latest favorite budget friendly ideas have been taking community ed classes (Chinese killer potstickers anyone?), going to a museum (For Minneapolis people, Walker Art Center has free Thursday night admission), trying a new yoga studio together (They often have a free trial class/week).
  • Money Management: Get on the same page about finances. How people spend money in relationships is oftentimes a point of contention. Commit to exploring your financial expectations with one another and setting a budget that meets your needs. Our own Kelley Long is a great resource to help you get on the same page. There are plenty of budget templates you can also download as a starting point.
  • Increase positive interactions: This might be saying, “I love you” more often or saying “Thank you” a lot more. It’s different for each couple. Ask your partner what they’d like more of to increase the way you interact with one another. These can be tiny changes done slowly over time. They may not seem to have a big impact right away but they make a huge difference in the long run.

These are just a few simple, fun ways to make your lovely relationship a little (or a lot) better.  Happy New Year and here’s to lots and lots of successful, healthy relationships in 2013!

About the Author

Monica O'Connell

Monica O’Connell is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist in Minneapolis, Minnesota. In her practice, she spends her career cheering on “Career Girls” as they learn how to get the most out of life. Monica works with arguably some of the most successful, intelligent, inspiring women in the Twin Cities who tackle self-discovery, career success, and what’s getting in the way of their true desires. She shares her favorite moments as those “best described not by words but by the stomach aching, face soreness that comes from spending an entire day laughing with loved ones.”