Upgrade Your Life

Posted March 20, 2013 by Rebecca Niziol in On the Ladder
Every time we go to check in for a flight, they make us an offer, “Want to upgrade for only $79?” The amount and logistics might be different, but basically we are given a choice: Do this, and you’ll get that. Companies continue to pop up that offer the user more choice in controlling their experience. This got me curious, what other types of upgrades could we be making in our lives? What would it cost us? What sort of life upgrades are possible?

We’re made millions of offers a day!

Each choice we have, in essence is another offer for an upgrade. We are in the driver seat, and we are given constant opportunities to make choices that will take us one direction or another. Each choice provides us with a different experience, as we navigate our way through life. We decide if we want to upgrade, or not. We decided if we want to take the uphill or downhill road. We can’t control the number of bumps along the way, but we at least get to choose new tires if we want.

But for so many of us, paralysis by analysis comes up. We are so bombarded with choices (through marketing, when we open our inbox, when we go to choose what coffee to drink), that we often choose not to choose. Ironically, that is a choice too. In an era of overwhelming possibilities, we seem to have evolved into a generation who often settles into auto-pilot. Why wouldn’t we? Defaulting to our go-to ways, helps us avoid the pressure of making a choice in each moment. In a way, it’s easier. We don’t have to think as much.

But this auto-pilot means that we’re settling. Not only are we not taking the upgrades made available to us, we don’t even notice that they are there anymore.

Think about an area of your life you might be stagnating in. Maybe it’s your job, or your relationship. Perhaps you haven’t learned or tried anything new recently. Or maybe you’ve stopped seeing opportunities and instead only see road blocks ahead? It’s time for a life upgrade.

What is a life upgrade?

Think of an upgrade as any opportunity to heighten your life experience. The traditional definition of upgrade denotes improved quality, replacement, and renewal. It is our chance to move beyond surviving, and towards thriving. It is the choice to fulfill our evolutionary desire to always be better, stronger, and live longer.

You might be thinking, “Wait a minute. I’m happy with my life as it is. I don’t need to make these life upgrades.” And you’re right, it’s important to express appreciation and acceptance for who we are, and the way our lives have manifested in this present moment. But it is not only important, but vital, that we continue to evolve into the best people we can be. Life upgrades are an investment, and come with risk like anything else. They mean you have to choose not to settle. You’ll start leaning into discomfort, rather than running away from it. But the investment pays off when you start to see you life transforming around you by making simple upgrades throughout your day, every day. Risky? Sure! But which risk do you prefer to take: Investing in your growth and development, even in the face of challenge OR becoming complacent and ignoring the fact that change is inevitable, and mandatory for healthy happy living?

How to start making upgrades:

You can transform your life one day at a time, with each choice you make. Take that area you thought of earlier, the one you have started to tolerate or stagnate in. Go through this 3 step process to decide if you want to upgrade:

  1. Is this choice allowing me to renew, transform, or improve my quality of life? (Yes? Great! You’re already choosing to take the upgrade)
  2. Am I willing and wanting to make an upgrade? (No? That’s totally fine too. Maybe you’re not ready for the upgrade yet. At some point, you will be.)
  3. What is one choice I can make to upgrade this area of my life right now?

Then go do it! Remember, no one said it’s going to be easy all the time. Nope, sometimes becoming complacent and sitting on the coach watching reruns of bad television seems like the best choice. But what about that action (or inaction) is helping you to improve your quality of life?

Sometimes your upgrade will be as simple as changing your outlook on something. It might look like eating better quality foods, or taking time in your morning to sit and read that new book. You might invest thousands of dollars into a coaching program, or a luxurious vacation you’ve been putting off for years. As long as you’re making those upgrades, whatever you choose is perfect!

Stop settling and commit to making life upgrades every day. Rise above tolerating your reality, and make choices to elevate your experience whenever possible. Pick one simple action you will do today, and share it with a friend, or below in the comments.

When you upgrade yourself, you upgrade your life. When you elevate your life, you elevate the world.

About the Author

Rebecca Niziol

Rebecca Niziol, ELI-MP, is many things: a life coach, yoga teacher, dancer, event planner, connection catalyst, and your new best friend. Her mission is to empower others to live the authentic life of their dreams. After years of traveling North America and Europe, she is happy to have found a home and community in Chicago.