Words to Eliminate From Your Vocabulary in 2013 (Part III)

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Posted January 13, 2013 by Melissa Foster in Features
Words

In this final post of the 3-part series, I’ve got three words for you to think about!

(If you haven’t already, be sure to check out Part I and Part II of this series. They will be a helpful and introduce you to what’s going on here!)

WORD TO ELIMINATE: ALWAYS and NEVER

REPLACEMENT: None. Just eliminate.

You get two in one here. Because the explanation on why these two words should be eliminated is exactly the same…

“I’m always sick,” “He’s always confused,” “I never do anything right,” “I never finish anything I start.”

Always and never are words of exaggeration and drama. Words of hysteria.

These two damaging words are extreme words and emotions are addicted to extreme words. Always and never exaggerate the facts and intensify your emotions. Exaggerated emotions urgently take center stage and feed the drama even more. Many people are caught up in this vicious cycle. And most don’t even know it.

Emotions do have an important role. They are a perfect tool to guide you towards your right life.

Exaggerated emotions, however, help to create the opposite of what you want. They demand attention. And remember… energy flows where attention goes.

Cut the drama. Although it may feel true sometimes – remember that it is not.

So there you have it! Five words that you can begin shifting right now to help shift your life in a positive, meaningful way. As you change your language, you are helping to change the way you think. And when there is a shift in your thinking, there is a shift in your movement and direction. That’s just how it works.

 

WORD TO ELIMINATE: TRY

REPLACEMENT: WILL/WON’T

“I’ll try” is passive. Ambiguous. And it means you need to tap into the power of making a decision.

Because here’s the deal: If you decide you’re going to do something — it gets done. If you decide you are not going to do something — then it’s off your plate. BOTH perfectly acceptable options! Just DECIDE and be done with it.

Ambiguity sucks. Don’t do it.

 

WORD TO ELIMINATE: FAIL/FAILURE

REPLACEMENT? TAKE YOUR PICK: OPPORTUNITY. INSIGHT. EXPERIENCE.

Most of us were raised to believe that failing is bad. The truth is the exact opposite. Working with startup companies has taught me this at a deep level. Entrepreneurs fail fast and fail often. They understand that “failing” comes with answers, information, and experience. The faster you fail, the faster you will learn how to succeed.

When you decide to shift your perspective to the truth that failure is gold, you open yourself up to accelerated growth.

Next time you view your results as a failure, stop and tap into the wisdom within. What do you know now that you couldn’t have known without this “failure?” Celebrate the fact that you get to move forward with more experience, insight, and opportunity under your belt.

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I hope this blog series has been insightful for you! Remember to have fun with these concepts. Play with them in your own world. And if you have moment, leave a comment below with your thoughts and experience with these vocabulary shifts. I’d love to hear from you!

 


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Melissa Foster

A productivity consultant for startups founders and entrepreneurs, Melissa Foster is on a mission to help her clients and readers create flow in their lives... and get big things done. A certified life coach, Melissa's hyper-focused, energetic approach is coupled with wisdom, warmth, and wit. You can get more from Melissa by visiting her website.

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