Your Personal Truth

Posted October 21, 2013 by Monica O'Connell in Life After Five

It’s ok to tell the truth about what you want. I’m ready to listen and I’ll totally join you.

I just told the truth this morning.

I have no idea how to curl my hair with a curling iron/flat iron/any iron and have it stay.  My stylist does it and it stays for 3 days. He teaches me how to do it and I get about 3 minutes. Mine is a baby truth but it’s a true.

Here are some other truths it’s ok for you to tell:

I am not happy here.

I am so happy here and I’m afraid if I say it, you’ll think it’s weird.

I want you to be my boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/partner.

I don’t think you’re right for me.

I want to get married.

I never want to get married.

I don’t know how to get married.

I don’t know if I should get married.


I want to date you.

I like you.

I don’t know how to date.


I don’t know how to open a checking account.

I don’t know how to work my 401k.


I don’t know the best kind of shoe to buy.

I don’t know how to pick out a car.

I want a new job.

I want to start a company.

I want to quit my job.


I don’t know how to orgasm.

I love having sex this way.


I need a day off.

I need a sick day.

I need a mental health day.

Make room for your truth, the one that’s just bubbling under the surface.  The one that would require you digging a little deeper, standing in your vulnerability and using your courage reserve.  The fear that: someone will leave, not hear us, ignore us, and not be able to help us.  It’s all a possibility.  That possibility doesn’t change the truth.  Bring it.

About the Author

Monica O'Connell

Monica O’Connell is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist in Minneapolis, Minnesota. In her practice, she spends her career cheering on “Career Girls” as they learn how to get the most out of life. Monica works with arguably some of the most successful, intelligent, inspiring women in the Twin Cities who tackle self-discovery, career success, and what’s getting in the way of their true desires. She shares her favorite moments as those “best described not by words but by the stomach aching, face soreness that comes from spending an entire day laughing with loved ones.”